Gratitude Doesn’t Mean You Have to Settle

A personal reframe for every woman who’s ever felt guilty for wanting more.

I almost didn’t say yes.

Not because I wasn’t ready.

Not because I didn’t want it.

But because I felt guilty for wanting more.

At the time, I had what most would call a “dream job.” I worked with great people. I made good money. I had finally landed the promotion I’d been praying for just a few years earlier.

And yet… there was still this nudge.

This whisper that said, “You’re not done yet.”

Not in a hustle way. In a holy way.

It wasn’t about chasing more for the sake of more.

It was about alignment. About impact. About making decisions my future self would thank me for.

But I almost didn’t say yes to what came next…

Because I didn’t want to seem ungrateful for what I already had.

I think a lot of women feel this.

Especially women who’ve worked hard to get where they are.

Especially women who were told to “just be thankful” to have a seat at the table.

Especially women who didn’t grow up seeing people chase more without consequence.

We internalize this idea that wanting more means we’re not content.

That making a move means we’re leaving something good behind.

That gratitude and ambition can’t co-exist.

But here’s what I know to be true:

Gratitude doesn’t mean you have to settle.

It means you get to want more from a grounded place.

You can love what you built and still outgrow it.

You can appreciate the opportunity and still walk away.

You can thank the version of you who made it this far, and still honor the version of you who’s ready for more.

This isn’t about guilt.

It’s about vision.

It’s about giving your future self more options than your past self ever had.

Ask yourself:

What’s the cost of not listening to the part of you that wants more?

What would you be modeling if you stayed small out of loyalty to someone else’s comfort?

If that hit… take a deep breath.

You’re not wrong for wanting more.

You’re just ready to expand.

Let me say this louder, for the part of you still unsure:

You can be deeply grateful for the job that changed your life, and still outgrow it.

You can celebrate the career you prayed for, and still pivot into something bigger.

You can be proud of who you’ve been, and still rise into who you’re becoming.

This is not a betrayal of your blessings.

It’s a continuation of your boldness.

If you’re at that edge, standing between gratitude and growth, I see you.

It’s not easy.

But it’s worth it.

Because you weren’t just made to arrive.

You were made to evolve.

And evolution requires truth.

Even when it’s inconvenient.

Even when it’s uncomfortable.

Even when it means letting go of the thing that once felt like the dream.

You don’t have to explain your ambition in The Vault.

You just need to bring it.

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