Some Rooms Just Aren’t Built for Your Future Self

A post about self-trust, outgrowing spaces, and making peace with the pivot

When the discomfort started, I assumed it was my fault

I thought I was asking for too much.

Being too ambitious.

Taking up too much space.

Wanting too badly to grow.

I watered myself down.

I took feedback that wasn’t rooted in truth.

I worked twice as hard to be half as heard.

And still, it never felt like enough.

But the older, wiser version of me knows better now:

It wasn’t that I was too much.

It was that the room wasn’t built for my becoming.

Sometimes the discomfort is a signal, not a setback

You start to feel it in your spirit before you can name it.

That quiet tug that says, “You’re outgrowing this.”

The tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.

The shrinking that happens when you stay too long in rooms that can’t hold your evolution.

It’s not always dramatic.

Sometimes it’s subtle.

• The way your ideas get dismissed

• The way your presence gets minimized

• The way your growth starts to make people uncomfortable

And you begin to wonder if your growth is the problem.

It’s not.

Outgrowing is not betrayal. It’s alignment

There comes a moment when you realize:

You’ve done everything you can in this space.

You’ve made your mark.

You’ve shown up with integrity.

And now, your soul is ready for more.

That doesn’t make you disloyal.

It makes you aware.

Aware that some rooms were built for a past version of you,

Not the one who’s ready to lead, speak up, stretch, or soar.

And the bravest thing you can do is stop shrinking to fit.

Here’s what I had to learn the hard way

You don’t need to contort to be worthy.

You don’t have to dull your brilliance to stay safe.

You don’t have to stay in rooms that benefit from your labor but can’t name your leadership.

Leaving isn’t always quitting.

Sometimes it’s graduating.

Sometimes it’s honoring the version of you who is finally ready to stop settling for rooms that don’t see her, and start building the ones that do.

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Final thought

If you feel the tension…

If the room feels too tight…

If your voice feels stifled and your soul feels restless…

You’re not broken.

You’re just growing.

And some rooms were only meant to be temporary.

Let this be the moment you stop asking for permission and start trusting your future self to lead the way.

Your future self isn’t waiting for the room. She’s ready to build the whole damn house.